Psychology of Personality Development

Strange but True.....

Bus Driver: Hero  Turned Villain

 When you are waiting for a bus on a highway, you always want that every bus should stop and pick you up. Who so ever do not stop, we curse him like anything. Now, finally one bus stop and you get into that bus. Again this bus driver stops the bus at next station and again at next station.  Now some of our reaction will be: Is it a local bus?  Why is he stopping time and again? I need to reach early. He is overloading the bus. So when you were on road every bus should stop, now as you are in bus so this bus should only stop at the place where you want to get down. The subject matter of psychology is this sudden change in a person thinking in such a short span of time.

Baby Crying: Pain in head or heart?

Take another example, if our own kid is crying we feel pain in our heart, but if the kid of neighbor is crying you feel the pain in head. The case is exactly opposite in case of wife. When your own wife cries you feel pain in the head, but when someone else’s wife cries we feel pain in the heart. It means that although the physical stimulus might be the same (crying) but what we are going to feel is highly moderated by the intent rather than the content.

How is that? Out.. May be may be not

When India –Pakistan cricket match going on and excitement is at the top, a run a ball is needed, and Sachin Tendulkar takes a quick single and there is a direct through on the wickets. The field umpire refers the decision to the third umpire as it is a very close call.  All the people are watching the footage in slow motion as the wicket of Tendulkar is very pernicious for both the sides. On seeing the footage, all the Pakistani fans come to the conclusion that he is out. On the other side all the Indian fans conclude by watching the same footage that the Tendulkar has made his ground. It means sometime our brain tell our eyes what to see or what not to see and instruct them to pick only those cues which fulfill our wish. This is again the subject matter of psychology.

How is Your Boss? Good or bad....

At workplace, when we get a salary hike or get promoted we feel very happy about it and come to the conclusion that hard work always pays. I have put so much of efforts into my work that is why I have been rewarded. We appreciate our boss a lot and say that his performance ratings are always unbiased and correct. Whenever you are called into the boss’s office and asked for suggestions you feel very happy and think that your boss really appreciates the experience and suggestions of the good employees.

Next year, you are ignored for the promotion and there is no pay hike, instead, a collogue of yours has been promoted with a very god salary hike. Suddenly you start disliking that colleague, and start thinking that he is a manipulator and might have influenced boss in some other ways rather than his performance. Whenever he enters into the boss cabin you are very sure that he is the spy of the boss in the office, he is buttering the boss and saying negative things about others to the boss. Otherwise there cannot be any reason to call him because in your eyes his intelligence level is below average. You evaluate your boss very negatively and conclude that he is very partial and have no idea to rate the performance of people. It means when we succeed only reason is our hard work and intelligence, but when someone else succeed he is just lucky or might have manipulated people and circumstances. This kind of reasoning is the subject matter of psychology.

Dose she love me?  Yes she love me.....

In a co-education system, whenever a beautiful girl sits with you and talks with you very smilingly, you conclude that she is very caring and open minded.  Now the same girl’s talks to somebody else or freely interact with other boys in the class, she has not got good moral character. She does not know the difference between good guys (you) and bad guys (other). When you look or touch an opposite gender person it is just a friendly look or touch, but someone else does those his intentions are not right.   When you make a girl friend or boyfriend it is a great experience of life and it helps a person to be a better person. When someone else is in a relationship they are just wasting their precious time of study in all these use less things. Psychology tries to understand the reasons behind this kind of reasoning.

Are Others Showing Off?  

When we buy expensive clothes, cars, jewelry, mobile phone and other branded stuff, we are living our life. We have worked very hard for it and we have got the every right to enjoy our life like this. When someone else is doing the same thing, he/she is showing off. When we are telling people about our struggles and achievements we are trying to motivate the other person to be like us. When someone else is doing the same things he is either showing off or is telling plain lies.  Why we do this, is the subject matter of psychology.

Do you do it your self?

We never ask the doctor that whether he has taken the medicine that he is suggesting us to take to get rid of illness. But we always ask people that whether they have themselves practiced what they are preaching to us. When I am advising others not to do the things that I have done, I am humble person who accepts his mistakes and is warning others to avoid the same. When someone else does the same thing he is a hypocrite and is advising people what he has never done in his life.

Sorry, You don't mean it?

When we are at fault and we are saying sorry to the person the matter, you are saying it from the bottom of your heart and the matter should end there and then. After all what is bigger than a sincere sorry. When someone else is at fault and saying sorry to you, he is just not serious. Moreover a sorry cannot undo all the wrong things right,  that the person has done to you. We cannot forgive people and hope that god will forgive us for the all the wrong deeds that we have done in our life. This kind of thinking is subject matter of Psychology.